Most mainlanders have very little, if any, appreciation for the term “Live Aloha” or the sentiment behind it. But Hawaiians know – it means living with kindness and love, both in your heart and in your actions. It is a state of being, and not merely a state of acting.
In traffic, islanders will readily “show some Aloha,” and slow down to let another driver trying to merge onto the freeway in front of them. Living Aloha means smiling at strangers, maybe even saying hello, instead of staring at the ground and avoiding any interaction. It also means no honking, no speeding, no cutting people off, and no stealing another person’s parking space.
The best way to define Living Aloha is behaving with manners, respect, humility, and goodwill. In return, your heart fills with love, fulfillment, and joy. Living Aloha means giving more than you take.
Could we practice Aloha here on the mainland? Sure, anything’s possible. Heck, I could train 6 hours a day, shed 40 pounds, get an all-over body and face lift, and be the next Victoria Secret’s model. There’s even a chance that I could learn to cook, wear an apron, and live for the pleasure of serving my man. I may start a new ritual of waking my hubby every morning with a nice hummer and enjoy every moment of it – I’d even swallow. Hopefully, you are seeing a trend here. Possible does not imply likely.
Sadly, Living Aloha here on the mainland is unattainable. Why? Because, as a society, we’ve become pathetic, self-indulgent, spoiled, narcissistic, lazy, and rude. The rest of us who have somehow avoided or risen above that trap are simply outnumbered. It’s hard to continue to practice Aloha when I hold the door open for a stranger and, not only do they fail to thank me, but they take it one step further and act like I’m their servant. I can’t venture from my home, even by foot, without being subjected to another person’s nonsense.
So what’s a girl to do? I guess strike a happy medium. Aloha lives in my heart and soul. I will spread it to those who are worthy and try to not stop taking a chance on others. But if you pull a Calvin and shi-shi on my efforts, you best be prepared for some wicked Hawaiian stink eye, because it’s coming your way.